The Do’s & Don’ts of Using Social Media When Getting Divorced

While you may be used to posting about your daily activities on social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, X (formally Twitter), and TikTok, you must use these platforms differently when going through a divorce. Even innocent-looking posts could be used against you during divorce proceedings, influencing things like spousal support and time-sharing arrangements. Here are the do’s and don’ts of social media usage when getting divorced: 

Social Media Don’ts 

Don’t Talk Negatively About Your Ex or Harass Them 

Even if your social media settings prevent your ex-spouse from seeing your posts, you may still have mutual friends who could share what you say with your ex. Talking negatively about your spouse during a divorce on social media can heighten emotions and make your ex more challenging to work with. You should also request that your friends and family refrain from posting online about your divorce.  

In addition, you should never repeatedly message your ex, troll their comments, or contact your ex’s friends for updates.

Don’t Post About Luxury Purchases

Posts showing pictures of new sports cars, boats, expensive jewelry, or vacations can be used to claim that you hid assets or made more income than initially indicated. Your ex can then use this argument to ask for more money in child support or spousal support. If the divorce isn’t finalized, these purchases could also be considered marital property, which means your spouse may be entitled to all or part of the ownership. It’s best to wait until the divorce is finalized to make a large purchase and keep it off the internet. 

Don’t Post About Illegal or Questionable Behavior 

You may think that a photo of you having fun with friends is harmless, but your ex-spouse and their legal team could use it as evidence of irresponsible behavior, such as drinking or using drugs. This could negatively impact child custody arrangements and your ability to be seen as a responsible single parent. To avoid potential issues, refrain from posting pictures or videos that could be interpreted as negative behavior. 

Don’t Announce a New Relationship 

Maintaining your marital status as “married” until the divorce is finalized on social media platforms like Facebook is best. You’ll also want to wait to disclose a new relationship until the final divorce decree. 

Social Media Do’s

Set Your Profile to Private 

Your ex’s legal team is likely monitoring your social media activity, so take necessary precautions and limit the visibility of your posts to only trusted friends. Change your privacy settings so only people who follow you can see your posts. You should also adjust the privacy settings of individual posts to hide them from specific individuals, such as your ex-spouse’s best friend, who may share your behavior with them.

Review Tags Before They Go Onto Your Profile  

You only want to show yourself in the most favorable light, especially when going through a divorce. Don’t let your friends randomly tag you in posts discussing controversial topics or tag you in pictures without your knowledge. Configure your privacy settings so that you can review any photos or posts that people tag you in before they go public. 

Unfriend Your Ex and Their Family 

It may be difficult, but it’s beneficial for everyone if you don’t see your ex-spouse’s posts. Unfriend or unfollow them, along with your ex’s friends and family.

Change Your Passwords 

You don’t want to risk your ex being able to access your account, so changing your password will ensure that you are the only one who has access.

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